1. Treat you right
You must first be happy with yourself and treat yourself well before you can expect someone else to know how you want to be treated. People who eat well, take care of their bodies and make high demands of themselves at work and at home will attract others who not only can take care of them on that level, but also take care of themselves equally.
We’ve all heard the age-old adage, “you have to love yourself before someone can love you.” While it’s easy to beat yourself up for your shortcomings, learn to recognize and celebrate your talents and unique qualities – when you develop a strong sense of self-confidence, you will inspire admiration from others as well.
3. Drop the baggage
Everyone has a past with some rough spots and unfortunate episodes. How do you expect to enter a healthy relationship if your are bringing your scars and fears form the past into it? You must believe that the ways in which you were hurt in the past will not happen again, if only because you are wiser now – and let yourself open up and enjoy a new relationship and a new adventure.
Think about the people you know who have what you consider a good relationship. What do they do? How do they think? How do they interact with their partner? Try and recognize these behaviors and imitate them in order to achieve similar goals.
5. Like the nice guys
We have a tendency to reject people who genuinely like us and treat us well. Fight that tendency, for god’s sake.
6. Too cool
Don’t waste your time chasing and pining after somebody who is “too cool,” a bad boy, or unavailable – they are not worth the time and effort. Someone who is genuinely interested in you will be available.
7. Have fun!
Remember, going on a date should not necessarily involve wondering whether your date will become your husband or wife – just have some fun! When you take things easy and show someone you know how to enjoy yourself, everything will generally go more smoothly.
8. Go with your gut
Forget what the people around you tell you and what your logical brain tells you is the “smart” thing to do – in matters of love you have to go with your gut instinct. You might make some errors but you will recover from them and grow along the way.
9. Take it slow
The fun and exciting feeling of a new love interest can cause us to want to jump head-first into the deep end. However, fight that impulse and take things slowly – what’s meant to happen will, in the right time.
10. Don’t over-think it
Don’t over-think things. When something is good you can let yourself open up and get closer to it. When something feels wrong, just let it go.